225. Becoming the Person Who Keeps Promises to Herself
Feb 06, 2026Why self-trust—not motivation—is the foundation of sustainable weight loss
Confidence and self-trust aren’t personality traits reserved for “put-together” people. They’re basic human needs — and when we don’t feel them, everything feels harder than it should.
In this episode, Kara explains how self-trust gets broken through dieting, emotional promises, and self-criticism — and why motivation and willpower don’t fix it. You’ll learn how rebuilding trust through small, honest promises creates consistency, safety, and sustainable weight loss without punishment.
This episode explores:
- Why broken promises quietly erode self-trust
- How motivation and willpower make things louder, not safer
- Why weight loss feels harder when trust is missing
- How small, doable promises build confidence and momentum
- What it means to feel safe while losing weight
- Why identity change—not forcing habits—creates lasting results
If weight loss has felt exhausting, confusing, or emotionally heavy, this episode will help you understand why — and what actually moves things forward.
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