Hello, hello. We've been spending this month talking about a mid-year reset.
Not, you know, starting over or not another diet, just simply learning how to pause, notice where we are, and then ask what's next.
The first week we talked about, you know, taking inventory. So last week we talked about what to do when the scale stalls.
And today I want to talk about something that I don't think gets discussed nearly enough, why we even lose interest.
So it's not because the habits stopped working, but because they started working.
so well that they became normal. And I think this is where sometimes we quietly give up, not because they failed, but because they got boring. So the problem isn't that you've lost motivation. So I hear people all the time say, I've just lost my motivation.
And maybe, but I don't think that's usually the whole story. Think about brushing your teeth. Do you wake up every morning excited to brush your teeth, really focusing on getting the job done, doing all the things? Probably not.
Do you need a motivational podcast or some big jump start to convince yourself? No.
You simply do it. It's part of who you are. It's become that. It's become who you are. That's actually what we're trying to create with these other healthy habits.
We want drinking water to become normal, planning dinner to become normal, checking in with hunger to become normal, and moving your body. We want that to be normal, so when we stop it enough, that's also normal.
When those habits stop feeling exciting, that's actually a sign that they're just becoming part of your life.
But here's where our brain gets us into trouble. Our brain loves excitement. It loves novelty. It loves something new. So we're going to search for something new. This is exactly what I do sometimes. Maybe you do it too.
I've… I've been doing the things. I've been drinking water, and working out, and paying attention to my hunger, and then one day, I catch myself thinking…
Maybe I need to like switch it up. Maybe I need a new, better, different workout or I should try that new supplement or drug or whatever, whatever the new thing is. Maybe I need a completely different approach and I'm going to.
Wipe the board, and this is what I'm going to start doing.
Not because what I'm doing has stopped working.
But because my brain likes new things.
It likes the excitement, it likes the novelty, and the diets are really good at selling novelty. This one is different. This one finally works. This one changes everything.
There's nothing wrong with learning and trying new things. I love learning, but sometimes what we're really chasing isn't better results or, you know, maybe we think it'll be faster with something else, but sometimes we're also just check.
Chasing that excitement of doing something new. So I see this in my clients too. I see this all the time when I'm coaching. Someone builds amazing habits. They drink enough water almost every day. They plan their meals, they're moving consistently, they're checking in with their hunger.
They're doing almost all those things most of the time. 6 months ago, they would have been so proud of themselves if they were doing all those things.
but they get bored. So today, those habits barely register as something that you've even done, because.
they're normal now. They've become the foundation, and because they're no longer exciting. So people stop giving themselves credit for any of those things that they're doing, or worse, they stop paying attention.
And so they assume those habits aren't making a difference anymore, because they don't feel exciting. But that's not true. The habits haven't stopped working. They've just become familiar.
They've just become habits, habitual, right? Things that we just do. So invisible habits are still going to produce viable, visible results. One of the thoughts I had recently was that these habits become invisible.
So, that's their job. But invisible habits still produce that visible result.
Think about your house.
you probably don't notice the foundation every day. If you look at it, you see it, right? But how often do you really think about it? How often are you paying attention? But without it, everything else falls apart. Your house would just fall down.
Your habits become the same way. Water, sleep, planning, hunger, enough movement, all those things, those aren't exciting. They're not exciting every day, especially if you've been doing them for a while, but they have become your foundation.
So the goal was never to stay excited about them forever, or to even have to think intentionally about them so hard forever. It's good that they've become just part of what you do, and in the back of your mind the goal was for them to become.
Part of who you are, that was the goal. So when that happens, that's a good thing. So now, what happens when you get bored? So instead of asking, how do I get motivated again, I want you to ask a different question. It's a little bit different. Are you ready?
How do I become interested again?
So not, how do I become motivated to do all the things? But how do I get that interest back? So there's a difference. Motivation is a feeling, but a interest that's attention. It's just a little bit of attention. So when you're interested.
you notice, you observe, you experiment, right? So if we were talking of… you learn. When we were talking about that house analogy with your foundation.
You're not gonna notice that the foundation is holding your house up unless you need to. So when you notice.
I'm not as excited about this stuff anymore. I'm looking for something new and exciting. Just put your attention back on that foundation, those habits, the healthy foundational habits.
Put a little attention there so maybe instead of chasing a brand new diet you simply become just a little more interested in your own habits like let's just check in so what do I notice what do I notice about my afternoons or what do I notice about my hunger what happens when I go to bed maybe 30 minutes earlier is anything happening.
What happens, uh, when I actually plan dinner before I even get hungry? Not what sounds good, not what in the last minute when we're exhausted, but, like, whenever I plan it a little bit ahead of time, before I'm hungry.
Those questions, they create curiosity, and so that curiosity, it's what keeps us growing. It keeps it kind of exciting, right? Because we have some attention in there. So, this is where coaching changes.
So it's also why coaching becomes different than any other diet. So.
A diet gives everyone the same next step. Do these things. Coaching recognizes that you have grown, so you have mastered some beginner skills, and now you're ready for another layer of awareness.
does not…
Do away with what you already know, but you are ready. You're ready for another layer of awareness. So maybe you've spent six months learning how to drink enough water, how to get it in your day, like how to make it so that you're not going to the bathroom all night.
figured that out. Wonderful, wonderful. So now maybe your next growth isn't about water anymore because you're already there. Maybe it's about your stress or maybe it's some emotional eating, how to make things easier for yourself, just refining things just ever so slightly.
Maybe it's learning to stop it enough.
Consistently. And so maybe it's learning how to navigate vacations or how to trust yourself around desserts. That's why coaching isn't about handing you another checklist. It's about helping you discover your next.
stage of growth. So if you're newer to this journey, keep it simple, super simple. The more simple it is, the better. Choose one habit that deserves your attention. So ideally, we're going to do water, sleep, you know, eating just for hunger.
and moving our body. Those are going to be the things that we're doing, you know, and then anything else to make that easier and more routine. But maybe we just pick one. We just pick one of those habits that deserves our attention, and then you drink the water, or you plan your dinners. Maybe.
you ask yourself if I… like, all I'm doing this week, maybe, is just asking, am I physically hungry before I eat?
Just pick one thing. So build confidence there. If you have already built those habits, don't ask, what new thing should I do? Ask, what old thing have I stopped paying attention to? Just check in with it. What's one area I'm ready to maybe understand?
a little more deeply. So this week, become a student of yourself. I want you to notice.
observe, get curious, not because you're trying to catch yourself doing something wrong, because… but because you're trying to understand yourself better. So…
This week, I have one experiment for you.
Instead of chasing something new, I want you to just spend the week paying attention. At the end of each day, ask yourself, what did I notice today? So it's not, what did I do wrong? What was I perfect at?
Just simply, what did I notice?
You might notice you're much hungrier on days that you don't sleep well. You might notice that you are reaching for snacks because dinner wasn't satisfying, or you might notice that you're doing far better than you've been giving yourself credit for.
So that's valuable information, because information is going to help you decide what's next.
And that's this entire month. That's exactly what it's been about. Not starting over, but learning, adjusting, growing, just one small step at a time. And if you are listening today thinking, I know the basics, I know what I'm supposed to do, but I'm not doing them, or.
I've built a lot of these habits already.
I just can't seem to stay focused on them anymore. Or maybe you're doing a lot of these things already, but you don't know what needs your attention next. That's where having another set of eyes can be really helpful, because sometimes you don't need another diet.
But you do need another set of eyes. You just need to tweak something a little bit. You don't need another list of to-do items, and you don't need someone telling you to try harder, get more motivated, be more disciplined. Just do it.
You don't need that. You need someone to help you look at what's happening in your life, exactly where it's at, all the mess, all the stuff, and just ask better questions. So what's already working?
Where have you stopped paying attention? What might be getting in the way? And what's the next.
Super small tweak, that little adjustment that actually fits your life and your capacity right now. That's exactly what we can do together on a free coaching call. We'll look at where you are right now, what you've already built, what your next step could look like.
So you can schedule the free coaching call using the link in the show notes, but it's also www.coachingkara.com/freecall, and you don't have to have it all figured out before we talk. So that's the whole point.
Sometimes your next level isn't another meal plan, it's just another conversation, another perspective, a layer of awareness.
because real confidence isn't knowing the answer. It's trusting that you can figure it out, and sometimes figuring it out starts with a conversation, just a little bit of help.
So, thank you so much for spending part of your day with me. Next week, I'm going to wrap up this mid-year reset series by talking about what lasting confidence really looks like, because confidence isn't having all the answers. It's trusting yourself to keep noticing and adjusting and figuring it out, so…
Until then…
Don't chase something new. Pay attention again. I'll see you next week.
