2023 - 1:4 FB Live Podcast Intentions not Resolutions
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[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to the concierge weight loss podcast. My name is Kara Hackleman, and I'm a certified life and weight loss coach. I help people just like you lose weight for the last time. Are you a little people pleasing, a little procrastinating, and maybe a little perfectionistic? Do you eat when you are not even necessarily hungry?
I can help you overcome that so you can finish losing weight and get out of your own way. Join me each week to get a little motivation and a lot of inspiration. Good morning. Good morning. I just wanted to hop on. I think I say that every time I just wanted to hop on. I should probably go up with something different to say, but that works for right now.
I wanted to wish you a happy new year, happy new year to you and your family. And then I wanted to talk about resolutions. Those, um, all the groups that I follow are [00:01:00] heavy, heavy, heavy right now into what their new year's resolutions are. And anyone who has the desire to lose weight, that is super like top of the mind for them too.
So, I have a couple things. Okay, you ready for my wisdom bombs here? I don't particularly love resolutions. I made them all the time and I never followed them. I, and I think this is why. I, so you would start out, right, with this, uh, Super intention, like even leading up to New Year's Eve before you make your resolution.
Sometimes you're really thinking ahead. Sometimes it's in the moment. You know, everybody else is picking something, but usually mine had something to do with weight loss. And I would say almost every time it felt more like a punishment. It felt more like, um, a beat down. [00:02:00] It felt like, oh gosh, my computer said it wanted to restart itself.
So if it, if it goes off, I'll just get right back on. I don't know why it's wanting to do that. And so the, uh, I'm hoping it doesn't. It's saying I have 59 seconds. We will see. Anyway, The resolutions always felt like a beat down. It felt like criticism and judgment. It felt like my not enoughness was like the whole thing of what a new year's resolution was all meant for.
A grand display to show me how I was not enough, how I wasn't doing things well, or I just personally wasn't capable or was not mastering something. Feels good, right? And so I don't know if that's what your New Year's resolution is more about too, um, but That is an old way of doing things. And you'll hear people say, I don't make [00:03:00] resolutions.
That doesn't mean that you can't have some growth or that you cannot have some self awareness, but self awareness and like criticism are entirely two different things. I would love to invite you to have a little bit more of an intention. Set an intention for what you would like. My favorite thing honestly has become this word of the year.
And so a word is not going to like Blanket statement. Criticize, judge you, put you down, right? One word of the year, it kind of tells a story within itself. The word of the year will be what carries you forward. Maybe it's what, like, is a warm hug. Maybe the word of the year provides you with some inspiration or motivation.
Uh, maybe it just provides you with a theme. of where you would like for your year to go, [00:04:00] and then as you think about that word throughout the year, it's going to mean different things to you based on what's going on, where you're at with, with what's happening and, uh, where your goals are, those kinds of things.
So I love a good word of the year. I shared last week that my word of the year is inevitable. And so I have Um, a business, this business that I'm growing. I have some more weight that I'm wanting to lose for the new, for this, this year too. And, um, I have hair stuck to my leg. And so my word of the year is inevitable.
My word is inevitable because I truly feel like I now more than any other time have all the tools I really need. And in years past, it would be setting a resolution and. Um, beating myself into submission and, um, looking, I, I hate to throw, uh, throw shade again at [00:05:00] Weight Watchers because like they do help some people, but it just, it wasn't the right fit for me.
And so I would go back again, tail between my legs thinking this time I'm going to be better. And the thing is. I am as good as I ever am. And I just was not a good fit for their program. Their program was not the fit for me. And so I have learned now what does fit me and it's motivation and it's wins.
It's celebrating my efforts. It's celebrating my mistakes, figuring it out. So like. My tool kit is complete and that doesn't mean I'm gonna be able to give you a step by step layout of how I'm gonna do all of my business, all of my weight loss for this entire year, but I know the basics of what it's going to take to do that.
And so each [00:06:00] day it's just figuring out how it's going to look that specific day. I have the tools. So that's the kind of thing I love working with you. So with this new year, I want to make sure you're not beating yourself into submission, that you are not joining a program that you've already tried so many times thinking that you need to do it differently.
You need to be better. It's not the right fit for you. It's okay. And you learned something about that experience. Let's move on. Let's see if this is, um, I can't tell you a hundred percent that this is going to be the perfect thing for But the nice thing is, is that this is one on one attention. So when I work with you, I give you one on one attention.
That's the whole point of individual coaching. You do have a group that you can draw from within the group, come to the group coaching and hear what other people are saying and that kind of thing. So you could get that, that kind of inspiration, motivation from other people and their [00:07:00] experiences too. But this is completely, completely catered, To you and your needs.
So with concierge weight loss, like the, the name says it all. It is a hundred percent how I can help you. Let's figure out what you need. What is it that's holding you back? And I love it because at the moment when I started, everything seemed big. Everything seemed impossible. It all felt outside of me.
And now where I'm standing now, and I'm telling you, I've been working on this discovery for years. I've been doing this in this method for three years, and I still have some weight to lose, and so I go back and forth with where I want to be at, and the feeling, though, that belief that I have all my tools.
It's inevitable. I'm going to get to the goal that I set. And so that, that is so empowering to get to where that is my belief. Not that I'm not good enough, not that I [00:08:00] don't understand or I'm not in the right place or I'm not capable. Like none of that is there. I have the tools. I am totally capable of making this happen and I'm doing the things.
And so that is a great place to be. I want that for you. I want that for everyone to feel so empowered that whatever it is, whether it's weight loss, something in life, whatever that you feel like your belief is just, it's inevitable that it's going to happen. You dreamt it. And so It's just gonna be a matter of like deciding when it's gonna happen.
It's a decision. I love that. I love that for myself. I really love that for myself. And I love that when it gets to, that my clients feel that way. I love when people stop me on the street and tell me they listened to something and it inspired them. of thinking in maybe just one small area that they never even considered was an option before, so when you start believing in [00:09:00] yourself that whole world just keeps growing and sometimes it feels great to just like get in under the blankets cuddle up and you know be cozy and taken care of and then other times your brain is like Just exploding with, with dreams and, um, ideas.
So resolutions do not need to be a criticism, a judgment, any of that kind of thing. So this week in my, in my coaching groups, I am working with people on their intentions and how they're talking to themselves. I am, let me pull up my notes. Cause I want to make sure that I share this with you. It's so good.
So good. So good. So we're going to talk a lot about resolutions and creating those intentions and making sure that they're coming from a place of, um, happiness. I talk about how does it feel? So like when you say the word, how does it feel? And then [00:10:00] we, we will coach on, on what that brings. So I, I use a whole coaching model and thought model.
And so we're able to uncover before we even choose that as an, uh, as a Intention, a resolution, whatever, to see where that's coming from. And is there anything we can clean up with our thinking ahead of time? And so I do that with my clients. Well, before we even set the goal, let's make sure it's a clean goal to set before we even dive into it, right?
The other thing is, um, is this something that's lighting you up? Is it exciting you? Is it not? Like, where are you at with this? So in the, in my groups, we're going to coach on this this week. We're going to talk about their word of the year. We're going to talk about like what their goal is and how specifically I'm going to help them and what they're going to be doing.
We're going to have some very specific concrete plans about.[00:11:00]
I don't know if that helps your brain, but when I know that, like, I don't have to have it all figured out for a long, like, I'm telling you, I'm coming from a place that my toolkit feels, it feels stocked, but I did not start that way. And so to know that I have like, I'm doing, and that's what I'm going to focus on all month.
And like, to know that my coach had me, she had all of it already. She believed I could make it. She knew that it was. inevitable before I ever knew that. And these were the next three things I had to focus on. She had the rest. She'll tell me when it's time to focus on something else. Um, and then it starts to change.
And so then I started telling her what I want to work on and I started getting excited about trying things and together we worked on that. And now I'm able to do all that for myself. So, if that sounds like something you want to do, you want to get in on [00:12:00] this year and not miss one single moment of getting your intention set, your word of the year, your resolution, if that's what you're still wanting to call it, let me know.
I would love to start working with you today. It would be wonderful for you to get to this place of your toolkit being completely filled for the year, um, for, for life. I don't know why I said for the year, because once you fill that toolkit, you're, it's yours, they're your tools and you get to draw from them anytime you want.
Um, let's see, was there something else I wanted to say? I just wanted to invite you to be able to do that with me. Um, If you have loved listening to a few of these videos, or there's one that you're like, Mmm, this is, like, hitting it for me. Will you share that? Will you start, like, just, like, sharing it to your own social page or, like, telling a friend?
[00:13:00] Tag a friend. That's great. Like, if you see a video, go to the comments, You just tag a friend, they're going to go looking for it and figure out why you got tagged. And then they can see what you've been listening to and see if it's going to be the spark for them too. So, if you have questions, I love, love, love getting questions.
DM me, send me a post. Whatever you want to do. Um, I don't think they do carrier pigeons anymore, but that would be fun if I had a, a pigeon out the door. But, um, yeah, let's, let's share this with someone you think needs this, because I'm going to tell you the first of the year, it's hard for some people. And especially when you just have tried all the things and you do not know what the next step would be.
You do not know how to do this. Like, a lot of those other weight loss programs, they're just feeding you diet mentality. And I understand that, like, there's things that work and things that, all that. But like, If we're [00:14:00] not addressing the why, if we're not addressing, like, what's going on in your head, yes, we will address what's going on in your stomach.
We will address what you're putting on your plate. We'll address all that, but if we're not addressing what's going on in your head, you're just gonna go back to old habits. And so, I can tell you, every single time I signed up for a weight loss program before this, It was, I cannot wait to be done. I cannot wait until this is over.
I cannot wait until I don't have to do this anymore. And now that is never what I have thought again. Never. I think every single day, this is just how I do things. And so it's kind of like when you get kids, right? You have a baby and like, sometimes you're like, Oh, Vacation would be nice. Let someone else watch them.
I'll go away without them for a weekend. Right. But you never think like this is just not something I'm going to do. It's something you do forever. And I'm not talking [00:15:00] about like the middle of the night, like no sleep. Can you please bargain with them and just get them to be quiet and go to sleep so you can get an hour without interruption.
I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about like the love and the cuddles and the like, let's go ahead and make a dinner and feed them all those things that like, okay. Maybe aren't your favorite. Well, love and cuddles are of course my favorite, but like the making the dinner, the cleaning up the rooms, the doing all the endless laundry, you still are going to do it because you love them.
And it's just what you do now. And so, and now that I'm saying this, I'm feeling like it might not, I might've thought through my example before I started using it. The point is I do everything I do because it makes my life so much easier. I love the way my life looks now. I love that. I know what I'm going to have.
And I. I do not spend all day thinking about food, what I'm going to have, when are we going to have it? What does everybody else want? What sounds good? You know what? Food has no sound to it. [00:16:00] I mean, when you're biting and it's crunchy, are you, are you wanting crunch? It's not. Like, ask yourself, what am I desiring?
But like, not what sounds good. That is, Like a, becoming a pet peeve of what sounds good. Why does your food have to sound good to you to pick it? You like it, you desire it, you taste it. You, you schedule that and it doesn't have to light you up even stronger on the day that you cook it. I'm saying just decide ahead of time that you eat foods that you like.
You never again eat food you don't like. And you'll always enjoy what you have, whatever it is. And I can tell you a hundred times more, you are going to enjoy not having to think about it in the moment. What is going to be cooked? What do you have the ingredients for it? Did you lay out the meat? Was there something that had to be done ahead of time?
If you've already thought through all of that, you're going to be like, Awesome. Yep. Sounds [00:17:00] good. Let's eat it because it's already there. It's already planned. It's already on the book. It's all the things. I'm going to tell you, I work with my clients on like, there's a process of doing this because I can tell you the first time your husband's, husband's going to be like, why do we have to eat that?
Mine for sure did. And like, it felt restrictive to them in the beginning too. And my husband and my son were like, Oh, what can't we have this time? And it's not what we can't have. It's what can we have? We get to have all these foods. I have planned them, which means I have all the ingredients for them.
Which means that before I. I think I'm checking out on my day. I already know I'm making this because I laid the meat out and I'm not letting it go to waste. I already bought the ingredients. So this is what we're eating. I still have flexibility. I still pivot when we get an invite to go out. But the day to day is so much easier.
It is absolutely the most loving thing I do for [00:18:00] myself is to plan ahead of time what we're gonna have. And then to eat to where I trust that my hunger is going to decide how much, I don't have to worry about points and calories and any of that anymore. My body knows how much it needs and my body tells me when I'm hungry.
I'm really good at knowing when I'm hungry and I have developed that trust that I understand when I've had enough. I have that, I trust that I really know when I've had enough. Now, sometimes I ignore it and I keep eating, but I can tell you. I absolutely know when I've had enough. All right, I'm going to wrap up.
If you would love, love, love to get this year to be the last time that you're setting a resolution. And it's just something you do. It's just the best way you take care of yourself. Then I would love to work with you. If you don't have it all figured out, but you're interested and you're curious, I would love to talk with you, whatever it is, [00:19:00] let's do it.
So let's make this the year that you decided. I can tell you that I remember September 2019 as like, it's my birthday or my anniversary because it was the month. It was the day I know the day that I decided I was going to try one more time. Just to say I tried it all. I did not have, but maybe a speck of hope.
And it was all I needed. And each thing that I learned, each thing that I began to understand and I really accomplished. It helped me grow my confidence and my trust. And I'm standing here today telling you my word of the year is inevitable. I have a toolkit filled and I can figure it out. So can you I'll talk to you later and hop on, grab my free, uh, next step quiz.
See kind of what's been holding you back and what the next steps are. I want to work with you. I want to talk with you. Let's make this happen. See ya.[00:20:00]
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