2022 - 11:9 FB Live Public Audio
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[00:00:00] Welcome to the Coaching Kara podcast. I am Kara Hackleman. I'm a certified life and weight loss coach. I help people just like you lose weight for the last time. Primarily, people are a little people pleasing, a little procrastinating, and maybe a little perfectionistic. I can help you overcome those so that you can finish losing weight and get out of your own way.
Join me each week to get a little motivation and a lot of inspiration. Alrighty, take 500, right? So every time I think I've got this, something else happens. So now it says that my camera on my big streaming camera is not okay with Facebook. I don't understand. I tried to go onto Facebook and do it directly so that I'm not doing it on Zoom and It didn't work there either.
So I don't know, but like [00:01:00] laptop to the rescue, but I had to unlog out of everything on my main computer so that my laptop could do it. So we are ready to roll. Okay. So what I wanted to talk about, that's a lot of, so I'm all fired up now, frustrated and fired up, nobody else feels that way ever, especially talking about the holidays.
Right. So we are going to talk about. Coming to your holidays with an attitude of gratitude for yourself sounds a little bit different. When you come into the holidays, especially Thanksgiving, I don't know if you're celebrating U. S. holidays, but Thanksgiving is just around the corner for us. And we, my family, we celebrate the first weekend of the month.
We have a lot of children. Um, I have great nieces and nephews and, um, great greats and all this kind of, well, I guess not great greats, just nieces, nephews and greats. And so we try to do it first thing of the month because they all have other places to go. [00:02:00] The month of November usually comes into play that people want to look for what they're thankful for.
Look for that gratitude in everything. It's a wonderful time to recenter yourself. As you're doing that, you My computer popped something else up, so let's figure that one out. Alrighty, as you're doing that, as you're recentering for the holiday, you will notice that It's easy to forget about yourself.
It's easy to be very critical of others. So as you begin, let's watch how we're talking to ourselves. And intentionally, let's create some intentional speaking, some intentional self talk that will carry us through. So I posted on Facebook, if you haven't seen it, you'll have to find it. I have [00:03:00] this challenge that I wanted people to, um, speak words of love and gratitude for themselves.
And I had some resistance. I had people who were like, no, there's, there's, that's so uncomfortable. And other people who had nothing to say about themselves. And that is why this is so important. It is important to be able to say that loving, kind thing to yourselves. As you do, you begin to have more acceptance for yourself, more acceptance in.
What you are amazing at more acceptance of what might not be perfect, um, or what you'd like to be a little bit different. It's really amazing to start speaking these words to yourself. Your brain looks for evidence. of whatever you're saying. And so if you're saying things like, Oh, I don't like my body.
Oh, [00:04:00] nobody likes me anyway. Um, or things, um, my brain is fried from the computer technology parts. If you're just speaking words, your brain's going to keep looking for the evidence of whatever it said, whatever you're saying to it. So when you're saying things are very critical or unloving, your brain looks for evidence of that.
Instead of speaking, unloving critical things to yourself, let's begin the season saying things of love, saying things of, um, care, all those kinds of things. So I said, I'll start first. And I started to speak things that I love about myself. And I can tell you, I also came from a place that it was not easy to say those things in the beginning, in the beginning of my weight loss journey.
I. Thought I was good at some things. But it was usually things that I was [00:05:00] capable of doing. And, um, those were a great place to start. I was really good at cooking. I was really good at keeping house. I was really good at doing things for work. And then I kind of thought, well, what makes me good at that?
Well, I'm good at doing things that work because I am not afraid to figure things out. I can figure it out and I am not afraid to keep trying. That is amazing. Not everybody can do that. I started thinking about what do I love about myself? Well, I think I am a very loving person. I am very compassionate. I am very empathetic.
And when people tell, which is probably why I'm a coach, right? As people are telling me what they're facing, what's going on with them, I'm able to hear it and like have enough care for them, but also be able to push through this process that, [00:06:00] you know, you don't need me to just give you a big hug and hide under the covers with you, you know, The whole point is so that you learn how to move into this and through this.
As you're saying these things to yourself, you'll start finding more things too. I started thinking about my body and my, my appearance and trying to find things about like that. Um, and so a few years ago I embraced the curls and whatever they look like some days they look like ringlets and other days they look like beach hair and some days I look like Einstein or that I stuck my hair, my finger in a light socket.
And so I learned how to embrace the curls and It has become almost a signature look, and I get more compliments on it than ever, and I used to get up every morning and flat iron blow dry flat iron curl it just to have it like look, um, uniform, and I don't [00:07:00] do any of that anymore. I think that my makeup looks fairly good.
Like I love when I have lipstick on and my lips are popping. I think I look really good in red and pink, which you'd see better on the other camera, but you can see I have red on today. I think that my body is very strong. I love how capable my body makes me be able to do all those activities that I really enjoy.
I love riding horses. I love hiking and walking. I even love CrossFit and like lifting some heavy weights. I love the flexibility that I have. I love, um, that my body is really learning, um, how to, I'm learning how to listen to my body and I am able to give it what it, it really enjoys and limit what it doesn't.
And when I do that, my digestion is great. My skin is great. Um, I [00:08:00] went and got a facial cause I had like a little blemish and, um, She's like, well, you have really good skin. And I'm only focusing on the broken blood vessels on my cheeks. And she keeps telling me like, really, you've got great skin. And so like, I've got really great skin.
And so another, another evidence of whatever you're focusing on. Right. Um, Let's see. I love how I help other people. I love looking for ways to help other people, whether they know it or not, that I'm the one who helped them. I really enjoy getting to be useful. I I enjoy being kind to people. I even enjoy being assertive sometimes.
And not everybody can take it. So some people have a nice B word for that. Some people, you know, call it aggressive woman, whatever you want to call it. But I'm definitely capable of being assertive. I am very capable of Talking about what my needs [00:09:00] are now and getting what I need, not at the expense of other people, but me too.
I can, I can be in the mix too. And so all of that kind of stuff puts me in a place that I am so much more loving. And that carries out into the world. It carries out into me being able to be loving. I accept other people as they are too. If I can be in love with myself, with all of my mistakes and flaws, I can totally be in love with you too, with any of your mistakes or flaws, I can understand that maybe you didn't show up today, how you would have loved to because of something going on or because that's not where you're at in the world at the moment, and I can love you anyway, knowing that I loved myself when I wasn't at my best.
I can let you have space to be you and I can hold the space for me to be [00:10:00] me and each of it be absolutely okay. Coming from this attitude of gratitude is completely different than, um, and I'm getting messages, so that's fun. Um, the attitude of gratitude is just where your attitude is so thankful for everything.
You're thankful for yourself. You're thankful for the people in your life. You are thankful for the holiday to give us a moment of remembrance to slow down and be thankful. All of that is just completely beautiful. Even when I can't figure out technology for the day. Um, let's see, I had a, I had an outline.
Let me look at it and make sure I covered all the things I really wanted to say. Um, I said, accepting yourself amplifies your love and acceptance for others. [00:11:00] Remembering the holiday reasons, what does it mean for you? And it can be totally different for each person. I think that's interesting because some people, they don't really have families.
And so it's not a time of family for them. Maybe you're dealing with some grief. Um, I have cried enough times on this, so I'm not crying today, people, but I lost my sister a handful of years ago. I lost my mom a year ago, right? But the the holiday does it allows us remember them. Some people don't want to remember it hurts too much.
They're not in a place yet to want to fondly remember them. But I definitely get to remember them. They were sick in all of the thoughts of holidays and seasons. And so, um, it, it lasts me time to remember and I can do that on whatever level I feel comfortable and safe doing it and, um, allowing others to do that for themselves too.
There's no one way [00:12:00] anything has to look. So your holiday can be however, um, maybe your holiday is just simply a time to have a day off of work and to be able to sleep in. And that would be beautiful too. Traditionally in the U. S. the holiday is a time of Thanksgiving. That's why it's named that. So we give thanks.
As you give thanks to yourself and your body. Really encompassing all the things that you're thankful for about it. Even if you have to go down to that, my heart is amazing and it knows how to pump blood without me thinking about it. That is amazing. I'm thankful for that to being able to be thankful for your crazy hair or thankful that you are going to get on Facebook live, even if it takes poor attempts.
And you're on your little tiny laptop screen. I'm gonna, I'm gonna just be thankful for myself to figure it out and, um, keep working with this. [00:13:00] I am thankful for all of you. I'm thankful that you come on and that you look at this as an opportunity to figure out your weight loss. I have said time and time again, I do not care if you ever lose weight, you are 100 percent beautiful and amazing at whatever size you are at any time in your life.
And I want to share that love. That instill that power of feeling for yourself. And so that is what I want to start with. As we come into this holiday season, I want you to remember that you are somebody to be thankful for. There's somebody in your life, someone you probably don't know. I always say teenagers might be the best that don't ever tell us that we're amazing, right?
They tell us all the things they need and nothing that we've done correct. And, um, in that. Like if we were not there, they would be the first ones to be sad. Your children would [00:14:00] be truly upset that you were not there. So somebody counts you as a blessing, whether they're telling you that or not. You have made somebody's life just a little easier, a little more amazing.
You. have probably been thoughtful of other people more times than you can imagine. I want you to start, even if it's just for this week, okay? Let's prepare our minds for the holiday season by being thankful for yourself. All right. I feel like I was rushed and I just let it all out. So you might have to watch this one a couple of times, apparently on three or four different starts.
Cause I don't know which one actually worked, but it, the little red light says that I'm live. So it sounds like it's working. I want to invite you. So I have done some rebranding and it's, it's rolling out in pieces right now. So you'll start seeing that, um, my weight loss is now being, um, called concierge weight loss coaching.
And the whole [00:15:00] point of the concierge weight loss coaching is there's no one way to lose weight. No one way for everybody, no one size fits all as it should be. We all come with whatever. And I love walking you through that journey that you get to see what it is that is the thing that has held you back.
What is the thing that you can move forward with? And then as. As
we are moving into this, we can, this laptop and this computer thing. All right. Apparently it stops whenever someone calls. Takes away my screen and everything beautiful. We're going to move into this together. Figure out the thing that has held you back in your weight loss. Figure out some next steps.
Hint, hint, hint. It's not a diet. It's not a [00:16:00] diet tip or trick. And together you can move into that place of confidence and trust for your body and empowerment. So concierge weight loss, you're going to be seeing it all over the place. I am super excited about it. It encompasses everything, how I love helping you and how it doesn't have to look the same way for any two people.
It encompasses it. all of my knowledge and my experience with everybody I've worked with, including myself. I was my first client and it allows you to have access to all of that. We will figure out your weight loss journey. However, it needs to wind or go straight or whatever together. I want to give you this new quiz.
I just created it. It's super fun. And it tells you that. So you answer some questions, like 10 quick questions, and then you get to hear what the next thing is. Uh, it was the first thing. The first thing is you get to hear that you, what the thing is that held you back. And then after that, it'll send you this email and tell you what the next step is.[00:17:00]
So I want you to try that. It's just kind of a fun, cute quiz. Um, and then see what your next step is. And I promise I am not giving up on these Facebook lives. I will see you there. Figure out the technology and it will get smoother. So hang in there with me and, um, I'm going to post it in the comments, but in case you're listening right now, the website is coaching Cara.
com forward slash next step quiz, and I will see you then. Bye.
