If you feel like you're always starting over, this time, I'll do better.
I'm going to be more disciplined. I just… I just need to get back on track. Are these things you've said?
And then a few days later, you're right back where you started.
This episode is for you, because this cycle, it's exhausting.
And it's not happening because you don't care.
It's happening because of how you've been taught to fix it.
Alright, here's what it usually looks like. It's a cycle, are you ready?
You get overwhelmed, and then you eat.
You feel guilt, shame, you repent?
And repent can look like…
Um, I'm going to be better tomorrow.
I'm cutting this out. I am going to be stricter.
Maybe you skip meals, or you over-restrict, you take everything out that you like.
Um, maybe you push harder with workouts. Do an extra workout, try to burn a few more calories.
And for a little while, it works.
Until it doesn't. And then, you're right back in the cycle.
I want you to hear this. You are not stuck because you don't care.
You're stuck because you've been trying to fix this with punishment.
Because deep down, you really do want to feel better.
You want to feel confident, and you want to feel in control.
You want this to work.
But the way you've been trying to get there…
is by making it harder, stricter.
More controlled, more perfect. And that's the part that keeps breaking.
You keep restarting because you think it has to look perfect to work.
But, weight loss doesn't require perfect…
perfection. I can't even say that word today. Perfection. There's not a right and a wrong way.
It requires consistency.
And consistency comes from something very different.
Instead of, I messed up, we moved to, I'm learning.
Instead of, I need to control everything.
We maybe moved to… we had…
What actually matters right now could be…
Or…
you know, this part's what's important today.
Not everything. Because the truth is, messy works.
And slow, it works.
And kindness definitely works.
And I know that might feel uncomfortable.
Because it doesn't feel urgent. It doesn't feel like you're fixing it fast.
And you have been uncomfortable. You have been in pain.
And regret, and disappointment, and lack of confidence for so long, you want to get out of it now.
But that urgency? That's part of that cycle.
trying to rush out of discomfort is what pulls you right back into it.
So, instead of…
reacting big, we go back to what we've talked about all month.
Pause. Ask yourself what's actually going on, and then respond in a way that supports you, not punishes you.
And listen, you're still going to have moments where you eat more than you planned.
That's not failure, it's part of learning. Because when you stop punishing yourself,
You actually start trusting yourself. And when you trust yourself, you stop needing to start over.
You don't even need half the food you have.
been eating when you trust yourself, because you know it's coming, more's gonna be there.
That's what trusting yourself looks like.
So, you don't need a fresh start. You need a different approach.
If you are tired of starting over, because I can tell you I have been.
If you are tired of feeling like you're either on track or off track,
on the wagon, off the wagon.
Let's change how you're doing this.
Not by trying harder, but by making this something you can actually live with.
Book a free call with me. Let's talk about it. www.coachingkara.com/freecall.
you're not behind the eight ball, you're not lagging behind on anything. You're just… you're just ready for something that actually
actually works.
