16:19:06 Have you ever thought, I was fine until…
16:19:09 Until it tasted so good, or…
16:19:11 You weren't even that hungry, but once you started enjoying it,
16:19:15 You didn't want to stop.
16:19:26 We do.
16:19:29 Have you ever thought, I was fine, and…
16:19:31 Until it tasted so good.
16:19:34 You weren't even that hungry, but once you started enjoying it,
16:19:38 Stop! This isn't about willpower, it's about…
16:19:42 safety. And today, we're talking about how to stop at enough without feeling restricted.
16:19:48 It's stuff I coach women on all the time.
16:19:51 There was a time when stopping early felt impossible.
16:19:54 If something tasted amazing, I'd think, I won't get this again.
16:19:58 This is special. I should enjoy it.
16:20:01 I deserve it. That would be my ending one. I deserve it.
16:20:05 And enjoy… enjoy it!
16:20:07 It would enjoy… would turn into overeating, most of the time.
16:20:11 And then I'd feel bloated. I would feel uncomfortable. I would feel frustrated.
16:20:16 But the next time, same cycle.
16:20:19 I… it wasn't hunger.
16:20:21 It was like an emotional urgency, gotta have it. That whole FOMO thing in, like, hyperdrive.
16:20:27 Um, to, like, diet… dieting trained me to believe that this was my last chance to eat it.
16:20:34 And that I would never get it again. Um, and then…
16:20:38 you know, I'd throw in the towel and be like, okay, Monday, I'm back on track.
16:20:42 Back to… chicken and rice, or whatever it was, right?
16:20:47 And so, I need to enjoy it now, before I can't anymore, because I'm the one taking it away from me every time.
16:20:53 So stopping, it felt dangerous, like something was being taken away.
16:21:00 Restriction says that you can't. You can't have it. Stopping it enough says, I can, I can have some more later if I want.
16:21:07 That difference matters. Restriction, it creates panic, for sure.
16:21:11 And safety lowers that urgency.
16:21:14 So even now, overeating often happens when I'm upset.
16:21:18 Or, I'm excited. Distracted, or definitely overstimulated. It's not about the food.
16:21:24 It's about my emotional regulation. I don't know if you've heard about that before, but…
16:21:30 How… how… how strong my feelings are feeling that day.
16:21:33 Feelin' the feelings, right? And stopping is harder when the emotions are high.
16:21:39 Uh, that doesn't mean that we failed. It means that we're human, that…
16:21:44 that we might need a little help with that.
16:21:47 That's what coaching is. Getting a little bit of help.
16:21:49 Next time something tastes amazing, I want you to just pause halfway and ask, if I stop now,
16:21:55 Could I have more later? That question, it…
16:21:59 takes the temperature down, like, immediately. Creates safety.
16:22:03 It feels okay.
16:22:05 Not like it's being taken away. You're not taking it away. You're… you're choosing. And that's a big difference.
16:22:12 Definitely, we like to have choices. Alright, I've got my reflection questions for you.
16:22:17 What story does your brain tell you when food tastes really good?
16:22:22 Mine was always FOMO.
16:22:24 Do you feel urgency or scarcity?
16:22:28 And then, what would safety feel like instead? If it was calmer,
16:22:32 If it wasn't such…
16:22:35 a rushed-type feeling.
16:22:37 what would that feel like?
16:22:39 And then ask yourself, have I ever stopped?
16:22:42 early, maybe a couple bites early, and then been proud later.
16:22:47 I've carried with me. I loved getting to create scenarios that I could be proud of myself.
16:22:53 Alright, if stopping feels scary,
16:22:55 If food still feels louder than you want it to, you don't need more control. You need more support.
16:23:01 While you learn an easier way. Inside my free webinar, I walk through how to stop the mental tug-of-war around food.
16:23:09 We can… we can talk through this.
16:23:12 where it's hardest for you at?
16:23:14 You don't have to keep figuring this out alone.
16:23:17 You can get that webinar at coachingkara.com forward slash sign up.
