Hey friend, welcome back to Concierge Weight Loss.
I'm Kara Hackleman, Certified Life and Weight Loss Coach, and this is week 5…
Our final week of the series.
Overcoming weight loss challenges.
I like to call these all of our roadblocks.
We've spent the past few weeks breaking down the most common challenges that can make your weight loss journey feel like an uphill climb.
Plateaus, emotional eating,
willpower or motivation, and that family and food boundaries.
Okay, today we're wrapping up this series with something that ties all of it together. Some self-trust.
building that self-trust in your choices.
Because without self-trust, even the best plan in the world feels shaky.
So, for the longest time, I didn't trust myself at all. If I made a mistake, if the scale went up,
If I missed a habit, or I didn't follow my plan perfectly, I made it mean something terrible, something terrible about myself.
I told myself I wasn't capable of losing weight. I'm just not gonna happen.
that what I was doing, it wasn't working. Lookin'… I'd start looking for something different, right? Something more perfect, something that was better that I could do easier.
that I needed a stricter plan, more rules, more control, let's double down on it, right? Critical, self…
Sabotaging-type behaviors of, like, let's make it harder. If what I was doing wasn't working, let's make it even harder. More rules.
Because in my mind, there were only two options.
either I was to blame, or the diet was. And if it was me, that meant I couldn't be trusted.
So, even when I tried to look for wins, my brain threw a fit.
I'd say things like, that doesn't count. It's not big enough to matter, it's not important enough.
I should have been doing that all along. Have you ever said that?
I dismissed the exact moments that were building my success, and the more I downplayed those little wins, the more I convinced myself
I was actually failing.
So, not only did I lose confidence in my progress, I started beating myself up for it, too.
And I made everything I did not important enough, not enough enough.
to do. All the things that would create weight loss, right? Not enough.
And so, I wouldn't be doing them.
So everything changed when I started treating myself.
Uh, my… myself better, my small efforts as actual building blocks, not proof that I wasn't there yet, but…
Uh, proof that I… I was building onto that.
It wasn't about perfection anymore. It was about progress, that building block kind of idea. I was building onto it.
And when I started recognizing those little things as important and special and enough,
I built confidence, not just in the plan and the…
The process, but in myself.
And with that, confidence came.
I started trusting that I could figure it out, and that I'd find the answer.
Even if I needed to reach out for help,
Or maybe I needed to adjust my plan, or how I was doing it a little bit.
It made it so that I could be curious.
I could… I could figure it out. I was able to… to stand the discomfort of learning.
while I was growing.
I trusted that I had that perseverance, and that I had my own back.
I stopped being a mean girl. I wasn't my own mean girl anymore.
And now, even when those things feel hard, I trust myself enough to stay calm.
to learn. Learn something.
And then try again. Trange it up just a little bit, and try again.
So let's talk about how to actually do this, because self-trust, it doesn't…
Self-trust doesn't magically appear.
You build it. One small, doable promise at a time.
And that's where I teach something called the three-promise Practice.
So here's how it works. Step one…
Make 3 small promises for today, not big goals, not massive commitments.
Tiny, realistic things you know that you can do.
So maybe it's drink an extra cup of water, or pause before eating and ask, am I actually hungry?
And write down one thing you did well today.
So those could be some examples.
And then step two, keep them. That's it. Keep your word to yourself, no matter how small it feels.
do exactly what you said you'd do. Make it small enough that it's absolutely possible for you to do it, and then step two is do it.
And then step 3, the sound silly.
Celebrate it. At the end of the day, say out loud, I did what I said I would.
You're not celebrating the size of the action. You're celebrating your reliability, because every time you keep a promise to yourself,
You collect evidence that you can trust you.
You are a person who can be trusted to do what they say they will.
So, now let's talk about what happens when you don't keep a promise, because we're all human,
And we have these days, too.
That's what I want you to try
to use the try again mindset. Instead of shaming yourself, or… I'll have to start over,
You just simply pause, say,
Okay, I'm learning.
I'm just learning. Let's try this again.
You get curious, not critical.
And then you might ask, what was going on today?
Was I tired, stressed, distracted?
What do I need to make this easier to do tomorrow?
This simple shift from judgment to curiosity, it does, it changes everything.
Because you stop making mistakes mean that you are broken, that you are a failure, that you are not capable.
And you start seeing them as information, and information is growth, and that's how
how you grow to trust even,
When things don't go perfectly. That's how you trust yourself, how you trust the process.
When you build self-trust, you stop living in fear of messing it up.
You stop second-guessing every decision.
And you start trusting that, hey, you're gonna figure it out.
You'll find the answer, even if it takes a couple times.
You'll have your own back no matter what.
That means you can endure a little discomfort while learning something new, because you know
that you're not going to pile on any more pain.
was self-criticism.
That's what real self-trust looks like. You don't have to be perfect, you have to just keep showing up for yourself.
And knowing that you're worth trusting.
All right, if this message is hitting home, I want you to grab my free guide.
5 weight loss roadblocks and how to fix them.
Today was the last
podcast for that.
guide each of the five roadblocks I've given you, um, an entire podcast.
It breaks down the most common things that keep women's duck, including self-doubt and perfectionism, and teaches you simple ways to start building real confidence again.
You can grab it for free at www.coachingkara.com/roadblocks. That's coachingkara.com/roadblocks.
Here's what I want you to remember.
Self-trust isn't built by being perfect. It's built by showing up, again and again.
With love, curiosity, and commitment.
Start small. Keep 3 super simple promises to yourself, and when you mess up…
Let's just try again, because you're not starting over, you're continuing forward.
You don't need to earn your own trust. You just need to practice it.
already have everything you need.
I'll see you next week!
